We all know that money plays a key role in our lives, but have you ever considered the money story you’ve inherited from your family? Our money story is a series of beliefs based on how money is spoken about, or not spoken about, within our homes. Just like our hair and eye colour, we inherit money stories as children, and they can significantly impact our lives emotionally.

Our relationship with money is highly emotional and has little to do with logic. Most of this is entirely subconscious, and we often aren’t even aware of it. Dr Nicole LePera, also known as @Theholisticpsyc on Twitter, explains that our financial state has a massive impact on our health and well-being. By understanding our money story, we can create a new, healthier relationship with money.

To find your money story, you can examine the ‘money messages’ you received as a child. These are things your parents repeatedly said on a regular basis. For example, they might have said that “money is the root of all evil,” “people with money are x,” or “money doesn’t grow on trees.”

Another aspect of your money story is the role money played within your parents’ relationship. This can include your parents always fighting about money, one parent hiding money, or one parent being highly controlling over money.

Were your parents open about money, or did they shut down any conversations about it? This can be reflected in whether your parents taught you about budgeting, were shameful around money conversations, or talked about investing.

Money trauma is another factor in your money story. Money trauma refers to traumatic incidents directly linked to finances, such as being evicted or having to move because of not having enough money, a parent stealing, hiding, or using money in a deceptive way, or money causing intense fights.

Money shame is another aspect of your money story. Examples of money shame include feeling embarrassed about how much money your family had, hiding the truth about your finances from others, or being caught stealing money as a kid and harshly judged by your parents.

Lastly, consider how your parents spoke about people who had money. Did they say things like “it’s easy for them,” “they’re rich, they’re not like us,” “they’re greedy,” or “they’ve worked really hard for what they have?”

By age seven, our subconscious money story is written. However, we can still rewrite that story, and it just means it will take intentional practice and work to form a new relationship with money.

For the next 30 days, notice the thoughts that come up every time you spend money, see someone who has money, or look at your bank account. You can journal these thoughts or write them down on your phone notepad. Tune into how your parents (and close family members) talk about money, as these conversations have the deepest impact and can help us uncover our subconscious beliefs about money.

Our relationship with money is deeply personal, and yet we don’t talk openly about it, even with our partners. This lack of open communication can lead to feelings of shame around money. By understanding and working on our money story, we can begin to create a healthier relationship with money and improve our overall financial planning and well-being.

Watches can now double as fitness trackers… and if you ask anyone who has one – they are considerably more aware of their activity. Sure – they may not actually exercise more, but with an easier way to monitor how active they are, they are more likely to change any behaviours that they are unhappy with. Building on this principle comes a brand new wearable…

A hip new bracelet by Sanlam called the MNA NAM bracelet has been marketed as a fashion accessory that helps the wearer to remain conscious about their spending habits. There is a QR code embedded in the bracelet design that allows you to scan and save, instead of scan and spend, as is often our forte in today’s technologically advanced culture of consumerism.

The bracelet is linked to a WeChat wallet, powered by Standard Bank, and you can transfer any amount of money from your bank account to this wallet, which helps you to save for short-term goals with the ease of simply scanning your wrist. Saving has never looked this good, and the more you wear the bracelet, the more valuable it becomes. It is also linked to a competition where you stand the chance to win a custom-style piece by Ngxokolo by scanning and saving.

A recent trial of the bracelet was recently analysed on Maya on Money and makes an interesting comparison about the bracelet with a FitBit. Just like a FitBit tracks your daily steps and heightens your awareness to take a few extra steps and exercise a bit more, this new bracelet could act as a constant reminder of your savings goals.

The bracelet doubles up on the goods — not only is it a stylish accessory that has been designed by South African fashion designer, Laduma Ngxokolo, but it also acts as a reminder to not make any impulsive purchases and to become more mindful about spending on non-essential items.

Its psychological power ultimately still lies with the owner of the bracelet but, according to the article, “it is a clever concept to use designer fashion to stop impulsive fashion spending”, and raises the question of whether tech wearables could change our money habits.

Maybe tech wearables provide just the incentive and reminder that people need to contribute to helping them achieve financial goals and advance in their understanding of their financial health. Could fashion help the future of finance?